Thursday, August 29, 2013

"Your Bladder or Mine"

It was the last day of July and the preparations for a long drive west were underway. The luggage had been packed, the truck had been cleaned from top to bottom - inside and out. The cooler was cooling with goodies that ranged from sweet pickles for the family, to various flavors of our favorite soda. We had taken a trip to Michigan over the 4th of July to visit family for a couple days and we looked at the 12 hour drive to Michigan, from our home, as a process of conditioning for our 27 hour trek to Nebraska that would commence in less than 12 hours.
 
It had been at least five years since our last driven venture to the west to where my husband was born and raised. We had been anticipating the trip for months, yet fears of truck trouble, limited funds, and teen-age boys that suffer from N.G.F.T.W. or otherwise known as (No girlfriends for two weeks) would somehow put a wrinkle in our plans. What am I hearing, your laughing at the girlfriends comment?...Come on now, we all know those youthful days of young love and the paranoia of wondering if your special someone is really missing you or really can survive without you around for a few days. Let me just say, if it weren't for sleeping most of the trip and the electronic flat boxes, they protect more than the family jewels, their I-phones, I think that we would have had to provide them with oxygen treatments and frequent calls to a therapist. Ok, I'm being overly dramatic, but honestly...I'm relatively close in what I am describing.
 
Now with any trip, there is always the argument of who is the better driver - Mom or Dad. I will be the first to say - Ladies this is the only way to get somewhere if your driving with a car load of men. (See the video below)
 
Ladies....am I right?  Big Cheesy Grin on my face and enjoying a big belly laugh as I watch the video - they had no idea. He He.
 
By 6am, on the first of August, we managed to get ourselves up and into our over the road traveling clothes, but have learned over the years that it was better to look somewhat presentable. The most memorable trip on the road was when we had stopped at a truck stop, we were tired, we had severe pillow hair - for those of us not driving - and we looked as if we had gone without a shower or clean clothes for months, that resulted in a stranger handing us a couple bucks and told us to get some food for our kids. OMG - Too funny.
 
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All the information for our house guest, who would be staying at our home to babysit our cat, was on the counter in case of any emergencies that may arise. The luggage was loaded with the cooler strategically placed for those - on the road needs - while the truck was in motion. Once the blankets and pillows found themselves at our traditional road trip seat locations, we put ourselves in the truck, shut the doors and let the adventure begin. Two minutes down our street a sleepy voice from the back said - "Are we there yet?" My husband and I just looked at one another, the fun was just beginning.
 
We stopped at our local McDonald's to get a bite to eat, and was officially onward at 6:35am - destination - North Platte, Nebraska. We decided to deviate from our typically driven route of 70 and a few other routes that would eventually bring us to some where near Des Moines, Iowa to then get on I-80 for the rest of our journey. This time we chose to stay on 70 as much as we could and then go from Kansas City, Missouri northward to Nebraska. We made it to Rocky Gap, in Cumberland, Maryland, in record time and took a moment to stop and take in the rising of the morning sun. It was at this stop the "I Gotta' Pee" games began.
 
 
 
"Rocky Gap - Rest Stop - Cumberland, MD." 2013
 
Now my husband and I, have literally traveled from west to east and back again, maybe not all at once, yet either way I'm almost positive that our butts have tolerated some serious auto travels in our days and have been on more seat cushions than toilets. But I'm sure that many of you that had traveled long distance by car with your parents or grandparents, when you were kids, remember those curses that were cast upon us when we would complained about the frequent urinary travel habits of our elders. Come on now, I know you are guilty and remember that impatient feeling, as you rolled your eyes thinking - "Holy crap are we ever going to get there".  Well as much and my husband and I wanted to believe all these years we would never be stricken with or by any of those parental curses, I must be honest when I say, we too are not immune and our eye rolling and bad thoughts, as kids, have come back to haunt us. Along with age, back pain, fatigue, and numerous bodily changes - the biggest change in our abilities for our on the road long distance traveling, and something we learned with quickness - we both suffer from - OBC - Questionable bladder control. All those cokes and water bottles that we had consumed along our driven travels to stay awake like we had done years past, no longer stored anywhere near as long in our bladders as they did five years ago - but neither my husband or myself wanted to be the person that would say, "Next rest stop pull over I gotta pee."

Now with my husband I and our bulging bladders, my kids dealt with the sides effects to Boredom -  Braxton hicks man style - AKA - Hunger pains. Before we could stop to do anything to save the treats -  the boys were in full munchies madness mode and any snack items that were in their reach had no hope for surviving to lunch. (It was a good thing I had more hidden in the back with the luggage). All in all the day was filled with your typical long distance drive summer traffic and unique ways that people kill the time to survive the close quarters confinement for hours on end. Our favorite was when I would see a truck stop that said Pilot, I'd say "Pilot", followed by my younger son replying "Subway", as we notice with every Pilot truck stop, it had a subway. But the biggest and most important requirement with any and every drive we make, having our Dairy Queen radar's on. Yes I will admit it, we are Dairy Queen junkies and if you were to total up the number of stops we made just for Dairy Queen, it would average out that we stopped at every other one, from Ohio to Nebraska and back. Even my husband knows, when he is sound asleep, there is a Dairy Queen near by and will immediately wake up - That my friends is no exaggeration.

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We saw many sights along our first day of traveling, below are a couple pictures I was able to capture while in route to our destination. We had never seen either of these places before, so it was exciting to see something new. Sorry if they are a bit blurry.

St. Louis Arch

Kansas City Baseball Stadium

One the first day of the drive, my husband and I shared the driving, just about equally. He probably did about two hours more than I had, but we still made great time to get to a more than half way point. At about 8:30 on the first night, my husband had been struggling to stay awake, and was realizing that his pride was trying to win a loosing battle. He had suggested looking for a place to spend the night, but being unfamiliar with the St. Louis area, or any place in Missouri for that matter, I offered my driving services and suggest that he lie down and get some sleep and I would continue on ward, but that idea just wasn't setting well with him and he chose to drive on. By 10:30, he had had enough and pulled over to get a room. Now we all know that you get what you pay for and he spotted a sign that said - "Room's $29.95 a night next four exits."  Something just didn't sit well with me, but I could see he was dreadfully tired and our heated seats were no longer taking care of his back pain, so I didn't add my two cents. The exit off I-70 was somewhat lit up by a TA truck stop location and the hotel that the billboard had indicated four exits back, was tucked back into the darkness on a dead end road about a half mile passed the truck stop.

Immediately I began to have ideas about my upcoming Halloween stories for my blog in October. My radar was screaming and it wasn't because there was a Dairy Queen near by, this was telling me that we were entering an area that had probably been the location of a crime scene many times. He pulled into the parking lot when I noticed a sign that was hand written in marker on a white piece of flat plastic that was bolted to the bottom of the pole of the billboard, that advertised the hotel for people going east bound, that said, no turn-arounds allowed. "Yeah that's because people go in, but they don't come out." I thought to myself. My younger son was the first to speak up and say, "Hey Dad, doesn't Norman Bates live here?" It was obvious that in-spite of my husbands pain and sheer fatigue, he could see that we were not comfortable staying the night in a place where when the lights go out, the green evil eyes of the darkness would appear and our luggage would be whisked away by creatures with a million legs.

It didn't take much convincing to get my husband to get into the back of our Suburban and sleep, and let my boys and I decide to drive through the night or find a place to stop and rest. After my oldest son utilized his phone to find hotels and read any reviews, we made a couple of stops, but again, these hotels gave me that same - Norman Bates kinda feeling - and I continued to drive onward. Eventually we found a comfort Inn hotel just immediately off of exit 125, in a small town called Myersville. The desk clerk was extra helpful and met us with a smile, which is hard to find at 1:30 in the morning. He put us up on the first floor, suite 107, that provided both of my boys their own beds and a king sized bed for my husband and I. He even offered the use of the hot tub all night if my husband needed it to help get his back feeling better. My younger son and I ended up being the ones who took advantage of hot tub, while my husband and oldest son, chose to take advantage of immediate sleep in an - I can spread out horizontal position. After twenty-five minutes of enjoying the soothing feeling on our tired muscles in the hot tub, we decided to follow suit and we too called it a night. With our first day being uneventful, we could have never imagined the growing danger that would find us in North Platte.

To be continued....

 

Tuesday, July 30, 2013

"Life's Bump in the Road"

Well hello everyone. First I'd like to say, yes I am still alive, no need to think I'd stopped writing for good. Everyone needs a breather and for me a breather was a must. Have had some unexpected life events happening here and I  want to be completely honest. I personally feel that to be able to bring you stories and/or talk about just general topics off the top of my mind, I need to be in the right frame of mind.  I know I promised you a big grand story for the summer, but when an unexpected accident happened that shook my family completely off their feet two weeks ago, I not only lost my ability to write...I also lost my focus that resulted in my being placed on a leave of absence from a part-time job that I really do enjoy. So my plan is to take my family on a much needed vacation, or as many of you also call it - a holiday, which actually I adore calling it that, as it just sounds so refreshing.
 
I have continued to go to my Vet Center for my weekly therapy visits and in the process of trying to get myself and my family back on a positive track...I picked up a new hobby. Below are some pictures of what I call "The Color of Therapy". What I discovered about myself is that I know how to paint more than just snowmen on Christmas ornaments.
 
"The Proposal" Copyright 7/2013
Artist: Stacey L. Bolin
Inspiration
I made this for my in-laws 50th Wedding Anniversary.
The location is Bear Lake in Estes Park Colorado.
 It was here with a view called Longpeaks -
He asked for her hand in marriage.
 I wanted to give them a gift that symbolized
their loving years together. I hope that they like it.


"The Eyes" Copyright 6/2013
Artist: Stacey L. Bolin
Inspiration
The endless want for this hot, hazy, humid, summer
to bring the chilly days of fall and the
excitement of a spooky hayride
through the woods during Halloween.


"The Path" Copyright 6/2013
Artist: Stacey L. Bolin
Inspiration
The book that I am writing with the hopes
 that it is on shelves by Halloween this year & a Bob Ross
video that I saw on you-tube on painting techniques.
 
My plans are to be on Holiday for the next 10 days. When I return I look forward to getting back into the writing saddle, wrangle my crazy thriller story onto this blog, and get ta' sharing the same excitement I had when I wrote it. In the meantime, keep those e-mails coming, with your story ideas, topics, oh and we must not forget, fall and Halloween are just around the corner. (Rubbing my hands together with excitement while an evil Halloween grin would like to find it's place on my lips). Send me pictures of your pumpkin plans and what you plan to do that is unique to get ready for all hallows eve at  throughthebarrackswindow2011@hotmail.com Until next time - Blog ya later.
 
 

Monday, July 15, 2013

"I'm Back On-Line - But Feeling Broken"

Update: 
 "Night Whispers" will resume next week. Thanks for checking in.


The reason behind my writing delays: 
Wow, I have to say I certainly didn't expect to let any of my readers down as I had promised you a story to knock your socks off, when instead, a series of events had knocked mine off - with the biggest being just two weeks ago, 4th of July, my family and I took a road trip to see very dear friend and family members. Many of you probably remember reading a blog that I wrote about wanting to know why bad things happen, especially to good people.  If you don't recall here is the name of the story on this blog. "I Want to Know Why!?!?!?!?!?!?!?” -  It appeared 3/14/12. 

We've spoken over the phone with his wife and son several times, but nothing could prepare us for the moment when we would stand face to face with the effects of ALS. It was a complete shock and so hard to believe that what we were seeing had progressed so fast from a year ago. August of last year our families were enjoying two of the greatest weeks of weather, sand, surf, and Disneyland and oh so much more in California - nothing could go wrong. For the kids, it was a trip of a lifetime, a place they had only seen on television, but for the adults, we were going back to our old stomping grounds when our lives were part of the Seabees where we were active duty in Port Hueneme, California. My husband and his brother in arms, Fred, were both Equipment Operators with NMCB 5, and I was going to Builder "A" school. It was his request that he wanted to go back there before his ALS progressed. Now as I look back upon it - it is a trip that we will treasure forever. My husband is the one in the white shirt.
 
EO3 Fred Wilson, and EO3 Ron Bolin
"Seabee Museum" - Port Hueneme Naval Base - California
August 2012
 
EO3 Bolin, EO3 Wilson, and BU3 Stacey Bolin
"Seabee Museum" - Port Hueneme Naval Base - California
August 2012
 

But on this day when we arrived at his home in Michigan, no longer stood the man we were used to seeing as the ALS was doing its best to win a battle that he refuses to give into. If ever a miracle was needed, I'd like to think he'd be one of millions to receive it. Already I had begun to worry about the upcoming months and what they would bring...suddenly I found myself deeply saddened and unable to stay focused on writing the mystery story of the summer. Not only has this reality effected the ability to put words on to paper, but even at work I am struggling to stay focused and yet, when I try to update people on what I am going through, I feel my strength want to break free and I'm left hanging onto the 50 gallon bucket that I've filled with tears already. So instead I try to hold it in, but at this point I'm going to have to let someone know as I really do enjoy my work and with all the people I work with. I do my best to stay constantly busy and certainly I don't want people to think I'm not able to do my job, but every time the phone rings I fear its bad news, even though in my heart, I believe miracles happen every day.
I'm not ashamed to say it either...this gal is feeling stressed and that I am so looking forward to my therapy appointment this week - boy do I need it.
 
Please, to anyone who reads this, I know many of you may not know Fred, but please take a moment to say a prayer for his full recovery so that he can see his children and his grand daughter grow up and so that he can be with his wife who has been with him every change and turn that ALS has thrown at them.

Until next time - Blog ya later.